Unfawning: A Language & Somatic Awareness Guide (PDF)

For neurocomplex creatives reclaiming their most empowered Self

By Nicole Spartels | Neuro-Love-Notes (Substack)

A gentle, powerful guide for neurocomplex creatives ready to reclaim their truth.

If you've spent a lifetime shape-shifting, people-pleasing, over-apologizing, or disappearing yourself to stay safe—this guide is for you.
Unfawning walks you through the tender (and empowering) process of noticing how fawning shows up in your language, body, and nervous system—and how to begin gently shifting toward self-honoring expression.

Inside you'll find:

• Clear breakdowns of what fawning is—and what unfawning really means
• A mix of nervous system science, lived experience, and somatic awareness
• Journal prompts and self-reflection exercises
• Reframes for internal and external language
• A visual Unfawning Flow Map for at-a-glance support
• Practices rooted in Internal Family Systems (Parts Work), Somatic Experiencing®, and trauma-informed, neuroaffirming care

This is not a hustle to be “better.” It’s a soft return to yourself.
Take what resonates. Go slow. And know: you’re not broken. You’re brave.
Fawning kept you safe. Unfawning helps you come home.

💌 For late-identified, neurocomplex creatives.
📖 20+ pages of real talk, tender wisdom & body-based support.
🧠 Best paired with a cup of tea, deep breath, and plenty of self-compassion.

💞 Pricing Note:
This guide is priced at $8 USD to keep it accessible for as many people as possible.
Creating these offerings takes many hours of deep thought, reflection, and focus—they are my soul work and service.

As someone navigating the disabling impacts of Autism and ADHD, I don’t have the capacity to work full-time in traditional ways. If my work resonates with you and you feel called to offer more, you’re warmly invited to pay what feels aligned and supportive.

Your contributions help sustain this work—and allow me to keep creating real-talk, resourcing tools for neurodivergent folks doing the deep work of coming home to themselves.

Thank you for valuing this. And for valuing you.